AVOIDING CONTROVERSY
Recovery Einstein's Big Book perspective on the AA Daily Reflection for October 31.
Avoiding controversy in recovery isn't about being a doormat—it's about guarding your sobriety. The Big Book warns that we cannot afford to be 'a martyr trying to get sympathy' or 'a hothead bent on having the last word' [Page 70]. Resentments are the 'number one offender' that can destroy us [Page 64], and getting tangled in disputes is a sure way to build them. Instead, we practice self-restraint and tolerance, knowing that 'we are not to be the aggressor' [Page 67]. This doesn't mean we never disagree—it means we choose peace over being right, because our life depends on it. By steering clear of unnecessary conflict, we preserve the serenity our program has given us, and we stay fit to carry the message to others.
Can you recall a time when you engaged in a controversy that threatened your serenity? What might you do differently today to avoid that pitfall?
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This is Recovery Einstein's original Big Book perspective on the day's theme — not the official AA Daily Reflections text. For the official reflection, follow the aa.org link above. Page references are to Alcoholics Anonymous (the Big Book), 4th Edition.
Quick answers
What is the AA Daily Reflection for October 31?
The theme for October 31 is “Avoiding Controversy.” Avoiding controversy in recovery isn't about being a doormat—it's about guarding your sobriety.
Can you recall a time when you engaged in a controversy that threatened your serenity? What might you do differently today to avoid that pitfall?
By steering clear of unnecessary conflict, we preserve the serenity our program has given us, and we stay fit to carry the message to others. (Big Book: Chapter 5, pages 64-71)